Some time after his mother's death, Leonard Dreifuss wrote this award winning story about her life and legacy. Our dad put the story together from his own personal memories. He also spoke with her frequently about her life and with other family members old enough to remember. The picture at left was most likely taken in Fulda, Germany, showing our grandmother Karolina Dreifuss as a young woman at about 20 years old. A talented seamstress, Karolina made this dress herself. That is not a hat on her head but her own braided hair, which was far too long to style any other way.
She was an extremely independent young woman who left Germany and her family for New York at age 22 with a cousin of the same age. She wished to escape the domestic duties that young women had at home and start a new life as an independent and free young woman in the United States.
In the United States she was a strong family matriarch, finding work for her husband (a butcher) who found himself frequently unemployed. She also found work for her son Leonard, who worked from the age of 13 to help support his family (mother, father and two sisters). But she also insisted that Leonard stay in school.
To this day Carrie, as she became known, is remembered by many surviving descendants of the Hess family holocaust survivors. She tirelessly obtained sponsorship for immigrant family members into the US, a country that was extremely reluctant to accept them even as the storm clouds of the Holocaust were rapidly gathering. She is forever in the hearts of Pete and Jeff Dreifuss and all of her grandchildren.
At the beginning of his story dad placed a table of contents, which we use below as chapter titles. We have added a chapter title on Leonard's discussion of Karolina's quest to save the lives of thirty family members and friends from the holocaust. This is the first of four pages of Dad's story that was titled simply...
PROLOGUE
On a wet cold day in October 1977, at least 25 to 30 people assembled in a cemetery on Long Island. They did not come for a funeral; nor did they come to honor their mother or father. It was an anniversary of the passing of one never to be forgotten by those attending.
Prayers were said; stones were placed on the headstone. Then, one by one, they passed the gate where others stood because they could not enter. They were Kohnen but their eyes were fixed on the headstone:
KAROLINA HESS DREIFUSS
born March 19, 1884
died October 13, 1963
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THE FAMILY IN GERMANY
It was 1906 and Karolina was 22. Fulda was a small city, and life was pretty much laid out for her.
She had received a primary education in German and Hebrew, as well as an apprenticeship as a dressmaker. What else could a young German Jewish girl expect besides a small dowry and to marry a good orthodox Jewish boy! However, life for Karolina was more than just that. It was adventure, excitement and romance, and that is what leads me to the story of Karolina.
Karolina Hess was not the youngest, yet not the oldest. I guess she was somewhere in the middle of a family of ten children. Benedict, her father, was from the old school which dictated raising his family in a strict orthodox Jewish manner but at the same time, a strict German manner. The boys, of which there were five, were military mannered young men, trained in their various middle class trades, who served their military requirements for Jewish young men in Germany.
Josef, the oldest, was the business head of the family. He was 33 years old and had married Rosali Levi six years ago, after which time he started his own family: Karl in 1902, Elsbeth in 1905 and Meta was just delivered. For Josef, it was a good season for horse trading, and he was just beginning a fine large family.
Photograph taken in Fulda ca. 1918-1920 showing Karolina's father Benedict Hess (2nd from left), her mother Betty Neumark Hess (3rd from left), her oldest brother Josef Hess (5th from left) and Josef's wife, Rosalie Levi Hess (4th from left). Woman at left and man at right are unknown.
In every Jewish family, one boy is proclaimed a scholar. This was the fate of Samuel. Samuel, 30 years old, was endowed with a beautiful voice. He was, therefore, claimed by the synagogue as teacher and cantor of the Fulda synagogue. Jenny Schuster made him a fine Jewish wife, and in 1902, a son was born, Siegfried.
Jettchen Hess was 3 years older than Karolina which left Karolina neither the oldest nor the youngest; she was just in the middle. Somehow, Karolina was always in the middle, and this is what she rebelled against.
Karolina seemed destined to be first in many ways, and only she could justify her rebellion. Why do my brothers have to wear such high boots which must be so highly polished? "Why is this chore left solely to the girls of the family? "Why am I restricted from meeting boys of my choice, regardless what family he comes from or what my family feels his potential is? "
To say the least, Karolina was a fine picture of a young lady: Petite 5'1" with an hour-glass figure and a rosy complexion on a sensitive face. Her eyes were blue and her hair reached down to her 27" waist. She spent her days sewing and cooking, which she did because she visualized that she would soon be able to accomplish the impossible tasks which her mother could do, which was also expected of her.
Karolina could not discriminate in choosing her companions. She spoke and laughed with the (Goyem) Christians, and even danced with them at the festivals. This became a concern of Benedict. In fact, the small Jewish community began talking.
Karolina only became aware of this through her cousin, Fanny, who was closer to her than any one person and became her personal confidante. Fanny spoke to Karolina for hours upon hours about her letters to relatives in Amerika and about the personal freedom for all - the right to marry whomever they pleased, with or without dowry; the right to choose whatever trade they professed; and the chance for a wonderful beautiful life.
"Karolina, do you know I have finally saved enough money for a trip to Amerika. I do wish you would go along since without you, I surely would not be brave enough to make the trip or stay in a strange land".
Karolina smiled and retorted, "Maybe somehow I can raise the passage money and we both would not have to worry because we have each other".
This was easier said than done since Karolina knew that money was a scarce item in the Hess household and a trip like that would be highly unlikely. Karolina approached Benedict, her father, with the idea of borrowing the money for the trip to Amerika with Fanny. Benedict refused vehemently, exclaiming, "Amerika is no place for a fine German Jewish girl to go." In desperation, Karolina went to her brother, Josef, and explained what this trip meant to her: a chance to build a new life; a grasp at adventure; and new experiences. Her brother listened but was worried only about one thing: the rumor that Karolina was seeing some goyem. Here was a chance to separate any ties she might have made to the Christian community. Josef opened his money box and pulled out enough money for passage, as well as something extra for living expenses until Karolina was able to get a position in America. Josef hugged Karolina; kissed her on the forehead; and said "Good luck, Good Voyage!!"
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